Twentieth century Australian nurse Elizabeth Kenny said, “He who angers you conquers you.”
Anger is one of the most powerful human emotions, and it has to be treated with tremendous care. It can be destructive, but it can also help us to reach powerful insights.
Between the stimulus that causes anger and our response there is a gap. We do not need to respond immediately. We can stand back, assess the situation and then choose our response.
We can also learn to listen to our anger. Often it is warning us about some sort of danger, even if the danger is something within ourselves that needs to change.
At other times something is triggering our anger. Perhaps we simply hungry, tired or overwhelmed.
Anger can also warn us that something is not right in our interactions with others. Perhaps the other person is just having a bad day, but some people do try to hurt us, and the best thing to do may be to walk away.
How do we learn to manage our anger? Counsellors can provide us with the support and guidance that we need. Two additional tools which I have found very helpful are journaling and meditation.
The fact of the matter is that we lose credibility and respect when we display unbridled anger, and we do indeed hand our power over to others. When we channel our anger with awareness, however, we realize the important lessons it is trying to teach us. We are able to more easily tap into our amazing potential, and use our innate goodness to make the world a better place.